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They knew how to make people They were genuine interesting people with stories to share and a genuine interest in getting to know the people they talked to. I began to see just how integral being was to a successful dating life…and I started to understand how to integrate it into my approach towards women.Someone who is fun tends to be more confident in themselves – after all, it’s hard to be fun when you’re too worried about looking silly or acting childish.Fun people are also positive; excessively negative people suck the energy out of the room and kill the mood while positive people help energy.
They didn’t have useful contacts for the social climbers or the money for those supposedly hypergamous women looking for the next level. who still managed to date sexy, intelligent, ambitious women. Being fun, being able to help someone enjoy themselves transcended looks and status.
This is part of why a sense of humor ranks so highly in every poll about what makes men attractive.
Laughter produces endorphins that go straight to the pleasure centers of your brain and relieves physical tension and stress in the muscles making you feel more relaxed.
Because of the pervasive belief that sperm is cheap and eggs are expensive – the idea that women grant sexual access only to those who offer the best “value” – they tend to focus on the most obvious aspects of what supposedly makes men attractive: looks and material wealth, with “status” following third.
The problem is that they’re working on the wrong areas and a misunderstanding of just what makes somebody appealing to women. more often than not it’s not even in the top 5 of what makes a man attractive.
And yet there were a few people in my social circle who could – to put it charitably – punch well outside of their apparent weight class.